What you don't know won't hurt you.

I'm sure a lot of women out there can relate to what I am about to say.

Women are nosy.

Oops! Hold your horses! Don’t gnash your teeth ladies. You know I am telling the truth. Whether you admit it or not, most women are always too interested with what is going on especially if it involves their significant other. And I am not an exception to that. I admit that I have become nosy since I started my long distance relationship with my American boyfriend. I am a Filipina and I’m currently working in Doha, Qatar. I met my man when I was still in the Philippines.

Ok! so much for the introduction; back to the real issue.

I have never been like this before. I have had relationships with men before but I was never the jealous type, I was never snooping around. I normally trust my significant other wholeheartedly. But suddenly, it changed. Just recently I started checking his yahoo messenger waiting for messages from women in his list. I'm glad there are none. I know I would be hurt if I did find some messages with other women most especially if it is something like flirting.

It is not his fault that I changed for the worse. It is my choice. I do know that it is an invasion of his privacy but I can’t help it. I have always trusted him with regards to our relationship and his feelings towards me. But sometimes, I’m just too curious if he’s really telling the truth or not.

I started digging in and that includes his blog posts, his messages, etc…

The DILEMMA!

I found something unexpected in one of the conversations he had with some lady he met on line as well. I kept it to myself for a short period of time until I can no longer hold it. I confronted him regarding this matter. Guess what happened???

Yup! You are right! We ended up fighting and I started crying.

Just recently, I found out that although he is with me, he is still open for other relationships. I read a conversation with somewhat a little flirting. He was trying to tell the girl that he is not sure about me because I am miles away. And that he's not sure whether we'll be together or not. With the way he had said those words, it is indicative that he's telling her that he's open for a relationship other than with me. The worst part is that, the girl is married and is flirting with him too. With messages like "If i wasn't married I will call you but I am faithful, very faithful". WTF (excuse me for my words). I wasn't born yerterday. It is flirting!

I tell you, THAT HURTS!!! (terribly)

What hurts the most is here you are trying to be faithful while you’re boyfriend is somewhat fooling around.

Sometimes, it’s better not to pry because it will just hurt you more than you could possibly bear. The good thing though is that, you already knew even before the relationship got deeper and deeper.

So ladies, WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW WON'T HURT YOU!

I don't really believe in that saying. I'd rather know the truth no matter how painful it is as long as what I know is the truth. I hate liars! And I am having difficulty trusting someone who has lied to me. I mean what is the point in lying when sooner or later you would be telling the truth? Besides, it is easier to accept things and to forgive when someone is being honest and sorry rather than be mislead with a lie because eventually the truth will come out.

"A Lie Is A Lie." There isno exception whether it be a white lie or whatever type of lies. It is always better to tell the truth. Like the good old saying goes, "The truth will set you free." Lying does no good. It ruins trust which will lead to the end of whatever relationship that you are in...friendship, romantic relationship etc...

SO GUYS ALWAYS BE HONEST! No matter how painful it is.